Love Conquers All

"How far would you go for love?"

This is probably one of most striking questions asked by one of our hosts in Lingkod during the interview with our very own Branch Leader, Bro. Joel Bulangkit Jr. and Branch Women's Moderator, Sis Glyde Bulangkit, who just got married last year as they shared how God has brought the two of them together through service in Lingkod in His perfect time. It was quite an inspiring, fun and memorable night. The night was filled with laughter and wisdom as they shared their experiences on how they managed to serve the community while discretely in a relationship. In addition, other brothers and sisters also had the opportunity to showcase their God-given talents through singing. It was a great night indeed celebrating post-Valentines!

Lingkod brothers and sisters pose for a picture after a fun-filled Post Valentine's Celebration

So, "how far do we really go for love?"

Ideally, we do have our own unique way or approach to love (especially when we are talking about romantic love). We also have our own way of expressing our love to the people we care about. Personally, when I was not part of Lingkod yet, I always have this perspective that...

"Love is a gamble, you may lose quite a few times until one day, you finally win BIG." 

We often rush into finding that "one true love" that we longed for and oftentimes, we end up broken; hurting ourselves from expecting too much that the relationship would work. Sometimes, we waste too much time on a person who is not really worth wasting our time in the first place. But that's it, every person is worth a try anyway. It's normal we make mistakes. Then we move on, heal and start jumping into another relationship until we end up with the right one. Well, that's a common thing that happened to a lot of people in the movies. So for me, that's probably how far we go for love if we based it on our own time table and not in His time.

If there's one thing I've learned in the community life when it comes to romantic love (when you have discerned that you wanted to pursue marriage life), it would be to have a deep relationship with the Lord first; putting Him first and trusting Him to bless you in everything you need whether in your career, job or finances which includes also of giving you the right partner in the right time, in His perfect time. Most of the time, our hunger to have things on our time and not on God's watch leads us into starving ourselves from the many blessings that God is trying to feed us.

In Lingkod, the way we approach romantic love is different than what we used to see or what we've experienced before in a relationship. If you have not been oriented by Lingkod's way of life, you would probably not understand what I'm talking about. In Lingkod, we encourage to have a discrete relationship rather than exposing our relationship in public for some reasons. You would probably asked why but there's always a wisdom behind it. I would highly suggest to attend our "Christian Sexuality Course" if you want to know more about it.

I think how far we go for love shouldn't just only be based on how far we go for someone but also drives our Christian faith on how far we go for love to love God too. God first then all other things will fall into place. As our leaders always say, "There's wisdom in waiting" as "True love waits". All you have to do is to trust that all we have to know is that the best relationships are always God-centered.

About the Writer:

Jeff Christian Feniza works as a Digital Support and Customer Care Representative in a BPO Company. He loves poetry, sports, video games, travel and music. He expresses his passion for music through his service in the music ministry.